An enlightening conversation with a senior colleague while having lunch in pantry really inspires me and makes me realized what must be upheld when we are going to commit with somebody.
Pak Rahmat, that’s how i call him, told me so much about his life experience, especially when he started to build a family with his wife.
The closer we are with our couple, the more we know that he or she is somebody else
And therefore we can’t force our couple to be somebody we want. Why? Because he or she is still another person whom we must respect. To love somebody isn’t same with to have him or her possesively. So forget to be blindly jealous with our couple as long as he or she still commit to the relationship. He’s still another person who wants to have fun with his friends, wants to be alone sometimes and still another person with habits, of which probably we don’t like.
Then i remember when a friend of mine shared her story with me.
Marrying someone isn’t only about love but also aboput tolerating his habit, even the most diminutive one
In other word, we have to accept our couple as a one package. Nobody is perfect. When we see no drawback from our couple, I’m afraid he’s not really himself.
I learn similar experience from my parents, who have opposite characteristic. My mum is very active, talkative and easy to mingle with others (because she’s a journalist and anchor) while my father is prone to be introvert and less expressive than my mother. They have been experiencing sweetness and bitterness of life for more than 25 years. The key, is never stop communicating. The more we realize how different we are, the more intense the communication should be.
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wehe…thea, opposite attraction itu bener loh…
Seorang sanguin secara tidak sadar akan jatuh cinta pada orang yang melankolis sempurna, dan begitu juga sebaliknya…kenapa? Sanguin akan membuat hidup orang melankolis lebih bahagia dan berwarna..dan orang melankolis akan membuat hidup sanguin lebih teratur…
Mirip ga ma papa ma mamamu?
“To love somebody isn’t same with to have him or her possesively.”
hmmmm…. *still thinking
it inspires me too…sometimes when our couple blindly jealous with us, it decrease our love….we feel like a fool, n not to be trusted.
i point out ur last word, that the key in human interrelationship is communication…
love has its own time, season n own reasons.
u can’t ask it to stay, u can only embrace it as it comes n be glad that for a moment in ur life it was urs
Untuk dito: Aku sanguin, artinya aku harus mencari melankolis untuk membuat hidupku teratur… :-S Tapi klo pas melankolisku kumat, trus gimana dunks? Atau aku masuk tentara aja ya biar hidupnya teratur… ini masalah membuat hidup teratur ya? :p
@ Dito…wah aku kok melewatkan cerita bagaimana mereka saling tertarik yah:D. Aku salut dengan mereka memanage konflik sehingga bisa bertahan sampe sekarang. Dan sampe sekarang mama masi tetep cerwet dan papa masi kalem-kalem aja:))
@ Brandalan…aku tau, ini pasti pengalaman pribadi yah:P
Hmmmm..beruntunglah kita yg masi punya ortu yg masi menikah sampe sekarang. More and more children nowadays don’t have such loving parents to look up to. I totally agree about the need to accept our spouse just the way they are. Special considerations, however, should be made when infidelity issues are concerned. I can’t tolerate infidelity in any forms. Hope there are still few good men out there who think highly of commitment and monogamy
Mendapatkan pasangan yang klop itu susah sekali. Namun jika sudah waktunya, pasti akan terjadi juga. Tuhan menjadikan segala sesuatu indah pada saatnya. Yakinlah itu. Amien!
@ Indi….orang yang sama kamu itu mesti yang super hebat karena kamu juga hebat:)
@ Fenny…Betul Fen, kita sering kali lupa bahwa keutuhan keluarga adalah salah satu berkah yang diberikan Tuhan kpd kita. Semoga kita nanti bisa jadi seperti mereka yaaa.
@ Merry….Semua indah pada waktunya ya Mbak. Semoga kita semua meraih yang kita inginkan. Amien
ummm, —gak bisa berkata-kata—-
“we can’t force our couple to be somebody we want”
agree with this one. sudah mengalami siiiih…..
bukan thea, aku salah pilih kata ni, terorganisir kali ye…
Jadi secara tidak sadar kita menyukai orang lain yang berbeda banget ma kita, karena “secara tidak sadar” kita mempunyai naluri bahwa orang yang kita sukai ini akan membuat hidup kita lebih baik..
Melankolis kumat? hehe…dari segala macem sifat yang ada, pasti ada yang menonjol de..hehe…
jadi thea sanguin yang melankolis ato sebaliknya?
Thea: ssssttttt..:)