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When I No Longer Belong to them

Thea July 29th, 2008

Yesterday I raised a question to my husband to-be if he’s happy that we’re going married, and he directly asked “what about you” after answering that he’s very happy.

I conceded to him that my feeling was mixed, happy, overwhelmed, nervous and sad at once. Why sad? he continued asking.

My sadness isn’t groundless. Once I’m married, I no longer solely belong to my parents, I have another person who will take care and responsibility of me. It’s about sentimental feeling that obviously emerges from inside of me as I consider my self haven’t completed and paid back what they have done to me. For the tears and sweat dropped from them that money can’t buy.

Many times before, I kept asking my self if this marriage they really wanted from me. I knew I couldn’t pay the purest love they give to me or even give a price over the parental bound of us as it’s too precious and priceless. My parents are obviously embodiment of the purest love I’ve ever received and I am hopeful that I can give the similar toward my lovely family. Then I know, they couldn’t be happier seeing me with the man who I love. They are very welcome to have one son who will share his life with me.

Thanks mum, dad for the thick and thins you went through to survive me.

Happy Birthday Guruh

Thea April 1st, 2008

Today, my lovely brother is celebrating his 21st birthday.

Four years ago, when I was 21 years old, I already graduated from college and obtained bachelor degree. Guruh hasn’t. Yet he gets a plus point. In his early twenty, He’s already run his own business. In the mid of this year, he plans to continue his study again, back to college he left for almost one year.

Guruh and I @ Bandung

It’s very glad to know that he’s no longer a happy-go-lucky boy. Finally, he found a turning point which made him more mature and wiser conceiving  his future.  A little bit surprise for us, especially my mom and dad knowing that he’s eager to start business. There was a debate before giving his choice a go.

Once again, happy birthday my only sibling:)

The Power of Love

Thea February 14th, 2008

People of Okinawa and Sarnidia are known to have a healthy long life-span. It’s not only because they apply healthy habits such as consuming more fish and soybean than the average, exercising regularly and sufficient rest. Based on the article I read on kompas.co.id this morning, those group of people also have a very lovely culture, accordingly respecting elders. The feeling of having sufficient love, warm spirit, as well as a close friendship do have great impact over our healthy quality and wealthy.

The proofs of touching impact have been revealed by experts. Not to mention the benefit of laughter and social involvement toward the one’s healthy. All of them shows that the good interaction and relation with others are decisive in our healthy.

A research reveals that husband and wife, who receive enough hold and touch within their relation, have a stronger emotional binding than those who receive less. It’s also said that a child who rarely gets hug from parents feels less secure compared to children who get the sufficient affection expression from parents. Meanwhile, feeling secure is very important to the children personality development.

If one often has headache, migraine, insomnia and likes to see other disappointed and failed, maybe he/she doesn’t have enough love, rarely loves him/herself, and rarely get attention from her/his couple.

So, do you love yourself? Have you said that you love your friends? Have you given the warmth to your couple??? Better to start it right away because the power of love is exceptional.

Keep Being Enthusiastic Mum!!

Thea November 6th, 2007

Yesterday my mum asked me to make a video call toward her number. I knew that she’d been long interested in using 3G technology, including video telephony. Then I called her. I could see her tired face after because I called her in after-hour, the time when she’s done with her office business. She smiled and looked very enthusiastic. Knowing that, my friends weren’t less enthusiastic. They stood at my back and were very curious with my mum’s face. My mum then became so shy.

I should admit her enthusiasm.  Being of fifty-something, she knows relatively much technology than average women in her age. Just call her number; you will hear a cool and update ring back tone. While for the ring tone, she chooses her fave song, Jude by The Beatles. I remembered when both of us searched for ring back tone in one of operator website. Meticulously she selected songs one by one and heard it in the headset. She’s not irritated with new song because songs by Tamia or Shelomita were one of her selection. Then, the choice went to Shelomita’s song.

Once I wanted to withdraw money from ATM, I kept in mind she jumped out from car and got in to the ATM box. I wandered what she would do. I thought she just would withdraw money like I did. Surprisingly, she asked me to teach her how to transfer money through ATM. I let her know step by step and know she becomes a frequent user of that technology.

Just keep your enthusiasm and curiosity mum. That’s why I’m proud of you. You never wanna stop learning anything.

 

The God of Happiness

Thea October 18th, 2007

The source of happiness is not figures in my saving account. For me, the god of happiness is seeing my parents, spending time with relatives or hanging out with friends.

Seven days in Jogja of course isn’t enough for me. Though I could have my moments with my family, go out with friends and go around my new neighborhood, it’s still insufficient. I think I must have a longer time even though I don’t know how many days more I need.

I took moment by moment this Eid Ul Fitr thoroughly. I really enjoyed the time I spent with my lovely parents was. We worked on together the mess in our home when Lik Sus, our maid, went home to Wates. I could have a chance to profound my cooking knowledge. My Mum taught me how to cook rendang, Padang food which I always wanted to master at. And Ogi said it was delicious. Merci mon cher.

Then I realized how important the friendship I have. My friends are my power source. Last Tuesday, my friends and I gathered at Jimbaran restaurant. We were there to celebrate the birthday of Wipi, Nora and Ririn. Just like when we met many times before, this gathering was also decorated with laughs and jokes. Unbelievable, it’s been seven years we’ve been together. Now, we have our won story, go through our own journey. As my friend says, eventually we have our own life. Ririn who met her halve in KKN. While other friends ended up with broken relationship with their KKN-friends-turned lover, Ririn and Ipunk stay together till now. Arif, who will go to Brazil and plans to marry my best friend, Wippie. Indi who’s still chasing her dream. And me, what about me? I am still looking what I can do in the future.

I am glad. I am happy. I was recharged and now full of power. The god of happiness of mine, I have already met it.

 

 

 

 

Two Days Left

Thea October 9th, 2007

Two days left before entering Eid ul Fitr. How is the situation in my office? It’s set on holiday mood. No kidding! We can’t resist the temptation to stretch our bodies longer. And when we look on to the pile of document and check the emails in our inbox, oh no, it’s such a burden that we must bring along day.

For me, two days means speeding up my deadline. I have to make sure that all of our roaming partners have implemented all our GT SMSCs (sorry guys, it must take your time as there were too many to implement). Then, contacting our roaming partners and rescheduling the testing should be on the list due to the more than a week of ineffective days. Some of my friends will spend all of their leaves. But I will keep some of them just in case I need it next time.

I will go home October 11, 2007 with the 6-pm flight to Jogja. However, now I am still checking my availability to reschedule my flight. Therefore, I am always calling the call center to get an update from them. Let’s see if my silver card member will work on this because I am with more than 90 passengers who want to fly earlier.

Hmm..i hope I can get it

Guruh

Thea October 3rd, 2007

Last week, I called my aunt. Besides asking about her condition, I also wanted to know the business progress that’s currently being developed by Guruh, my brother.

Starting at the beginning of the September, Guruh, made a breakthrough. It’s a breakthrough for me as I never dare to start a thing like him. I know that he always dreams to run his own business someday. But I never expected before that being a restaurateur was one of his choices. 

I couldn’t believe when he said to me that he wanted to start the business immediately.

It has to be now, or never!

My father and I were those who rejected the idea. For me, he’s too young to start such business. Moreover, he managed to build the business in other city, not in Jogja. It means he has to terminate from his colleague for a while. 

I just want to make sure this business runs well. Afterward, I will go to college again.  

 

We (my parents and I) “gave in” our rejection and decided to give his choice a go.  Having gone for about one month, his business shows a positive trend. Everyday, at least he earns 700-900 thousands. He is confident that this business, which he builds with his friends, is going to grow well someday. I am so glad with this news. He isn’t only growing up now but also maturing himself. He dares to take the responsibility of the choice he made. And he proves that his intuition isn’t wrong. InsyaAllah:) I just can laugh remembering my days with him as he was so spoiled to me and my parents. Imagining that he is running a business in such age was never in my mind before.  

 

I remember the last message he sent to me before opening the restaurant.

Mbak, don’t send me money anymore. I want to be independent now. 

 

 

And now, he becomes a restaurateur when he’s 20 years old. Guruh, I am so proud of you:) 

 

 

 

The Sweetness of Home

Thea August 15th, 2007

Going home to Jogja is a moment that I am always looking forward to. Just like now, I really miss the nuance of home. Its unavoidable tranquility is always in my mind. 

It’s just only going home. I really love the process. Deciding the date to go home, buying the return ticket, packing, and boarding to train or plane, and enjoying the trip. 

Arriving at home, my grandma always welcomes me with hot drink, either coffee or tea. For the God’s sake, she’s so lovely and cares of me. My grandma and I used to be (and still now) a good partner. I remember when my mum had to move to Semarang as she’s assigned in the new post. At that time, we handled the household together, especially for the cooking matters. Daddy gave me weekly money to buy needs such as vegetable, fish, meat, eggs, sugar and others. I arranged everything, with her assistance. I decided menus for each day, often thinking hard so my family members would get bored with the meal. 

Managing house isn’t easy. House for me (and I assume for everybody) should be a home sweet home where every member feel comfortable to live within. And I ever experienced that one and wish that eventually I can manage my own. 

Speaking about managing house reminds me of my mom, who’s now being posted in Cirebon. For me, she’s the master of everything. She masters of how-to-manage skill and arranging the interior of home. She’s an expert of cooking too. I know many things about cooking form her, and no doubt, it’s very useful right now. Thank you so much Mom. 

And this weekend, I am going home. I really can’t wait seeing it. Though my mom and dad don’t go home this weekend, I am still enthusiastic as I can do my favorite things such as cooking and arranging the home (as we now move to the new house), seeing lovely persons in my life (including you my dear), and feeling the sweetness of home itself. 

To Bandung (again)

Thea May 11th, 2007

C’mon Mom! We go to Bandung visiting dady.
Hhmm..wait we will meet Guruh and grandma there.
I’m so happy. Next weekend, we will gather in Jogja.
Four days of holiday.  
Bandung and Jogja..such perfect places to meet.
 

Thank You

Thea May 1st, 2007

I am so thankful to be surrounded by people who really love and care of me.

Last weekend, I killed my time visiting Bandung. The itineraries were visiting my daddy who’s now being posted in Bandung and meeting my colleague mates. My friends and I planned to gather in Bandung, for leisure time.

It was so wonderful. The moment I was looking for, and finally I found in Bandung. As I missed laughter with them, then that was really fulfilling. In between the shopping activities and tasting nice food, I really found the essence what’s friends are for. I finally know, with whom I can trust to. With whom I can share my mind with and I could be ear and shoulder at once for them. Though we are now separated, I’m convinced we are still linked each other. A really nice moment was when we visited Mira. She’s the most beautiful woman in my batch. I was impressed when she decided to get married and now more impressed seeing her taking care of her baby. Her baby, definitely, is a sweet little angel. So cute….

It was great to visit my daddy. In my last day in Bandung, he drove me every where. I wondered when the last time he drove me was. We talked many things. Within my heart, I was so worried about his health. He’s living alone in Bandung and we can’t take care of him. My mom is posted in another city. Once in month, my parents and I commit to go home to Jogja, a place which offers comfort for our family. I promise, someday we will gather again in Jogja. In a peaceful neighborhood we dream of, far away for hectic life in Jakarta.

Thanks God. For all sweet moments! Really, I am so grateful.

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