IF

If you can keep your head when all about you are loosing theirs and blaming it on you;

If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you, but make allowance for their doubting too;

If you can wait and not be tired by waiting, or being lied about, don’t deal in lies, or being hated, don’t give way to hating, and yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise;

If you can dream – and not make your dreams your mater;

If you can think – and not make thoughts your aim,

If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster

And treat those imposters just the same; if you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken

Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,

Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken, and stoop and build’em up with worn-out tools;

If you can make one heap of all your winnings

And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,

And lose, and start again at your beginnings and never breathe a word about your loss;

If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew

To serve your turn long after they are gone,

And so hold on when there is nothing in you

Except the Will which says to them: “Hold on!”

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,

Or walk with Kings – nor lose the common touch,

If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,

If all men count with you, but none too much;

If you can fill the unforgiving minute

With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,

Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,

And – which is more- you’ll be a Man, my Son!!

(by Rudyard Kipling)

Weaning the Boy

Weaning our little boy, Cena, is always an issue for our family. The attachment between Cena and us as parents is very tight. It is understandable because both my hubby and I are working at home. Therefore, it is ourselves who supervise Cena everyday, every time. We have no nanny. All Cena’s businesses are taken care by us as.

Since this January, Cena has been attending play group in Fastrack. He also went to this place before entering the play group stage. In this play group, all students are required to attend the class by themselves. No companion. Yet, for the first time, students might be accompanied either by their parents or nannies or relatives. Then, there’s weaning time. Each student has his/her own turn to be weaned.

Cena’s turn started last week. He got the last turn because he was absent for 3 weeks for vacation. My hubby and I were very curios. How Cena would react to the weaning. Would he cry? Or would he be just right? On first Monday, which was the first day of weaning, I took Cena to his class and accompanied him for about fifteen minutes. The teachers asked me to leave him with them and his friends. Cena, knowing that I had to leave him, cried. The class’ door closed and I left him.

Then, I watched him from the CCTV monitor. Cena cried and insisted to open the door. One of the teachers had to sit in front of the door so Cena couldn’t reach the door. He cried for about 30 minutes and after that he was calm yet still reluctantly joined class activity. He sat alone, accompanied by his teacher. When it came to snack time, he didn’t eat, saying that he was not hungry. Refusing a meal? Sounds not him at all. Yet I knew that it was because he wasn’t in good mood of eating.

2 hours passed and we were ready in front of the class’ door to greet him. When the door opened, he was smile, looked relieved that his parents were there waiting for him. I kissed him on cheeks and hugged him tightly. It turned out that I, too, was anxious leaving him and separating from him. Yet, I was so proud him. First day of weaning passed like what I anticipated before. Rough for the first time and ran smoothly in the rest.

And it came the second day of weaning in Wednesday. Just like on Monday, I took him to the class, playing with him several minutes and left him with the teacher. And….Cena cried. I rushed to the CCTV monitor to watch over him. He cried but not long. It was only 10 minutes. And after that he was happily playing around with his friends. I was so relieved. Everything also went smoothly on Friday and Monday in the week after. He was fine and mingled gladly with his friend.

And today was his fifth day. Unexpectedly, before going to school, he cried. Though he insisted to stay at home, I took him to the school. I don’t know why he behaves so after passing smooth days. I assume that the separation which he can barely stand. Once he is with his friends in class, he is so happy. It is likely that he never cries or be reluctant to go to school. I do hope in the next days he will be okay.

Potty Training

I proudly announce that my son, Avicena (25 months old), has completed successfully potty training program during the night. It started more or less one week ago, I suggested him not to wear any cloth diaper in the night. Surprisingly he agreed. Then, we began the night potty training program. Months before reaching 24 months old or 2 years, Cena did complete the potty training in the day and nite before sleeping. Therefore, completing the program in the night was another big challenge for me. Actually, I put it as one of my resolutions in 2012:)

Then, the program commenced. Before going to sleep, I asked Cena to pee. I also put waterproof sheet on the bed, just in case Cena unconsciously did pee in the night. In the first night, I did hypno-suggestion to Cena. Repeatedly I said to him a ‘chant” like this:

From this night on, if you want to pee, you wake up in the middle of your sleep and go to the bathroom.

I kept saying that to Cena while breastfeeding him before sleeping because it was the best time to suggest a person, including a toddler like Cena.

I watched him along the first night, making sure if he wanted to pee then I could rescue him to the bathroom. Beyond my expectation, he didn’t pee at all. Waking up in the morning, the first thing he did was saying to ┬álike this :

Bun, I wanted to pee.

Then, hurriedly I carried him to the bathroom and voila…he did it in the bathroom. I was soooo happy.

And it continued in succeeding nights. Cena has been sleeping without cloth diaper until now. Learning from my experience, I could share some tips once doing potty training for children:

  1. Trust our children. Put trust on our children is the ultimate thing. Believe in his/her capability to make this program success.
  2. Start the program as early as possible. The earlier, the better. Once your son/daughter could sit straightly, the program can be commenced.
  3. Be consistent. Once your son/daughter doesn’t wear any diaper, offer him/her to go to the bathroom or pee in the portable closet.
  4. Be supportive. Praise them if they are willing to pee in the bathroom.