Big Things Starts with the Small One

Big thing starts with the small one

That wisdom really relates to my personal experiences. I have been living in this world and I still have a faith that I need to work hard to get something.  If people see my life runs so smooth, I assume I must be very expert revealing my bright sides. They may not know that I am friend of hardships. So many hardships that I’ve ever met and they make me unbreakable. People may try to hit me, but I always stay strong both in attitude and mind.

My mother teaches me how to survive. She crawled out of hardship and pursues what she wants. She is always consistent on what she’s doing. She always stays on her passion. In this case, I think my mum is the lucky one as she’s always hand in hand with her passions; journalism and broadcasting. And now she harvests the yield. She’s woman on top. She started with small and now enjoys her big things:)

I have been living for 28 years in this world. I celebrated my birth day on last 18 of May. From 1 to 10, I mark my life on 8. I am happy and I want to be happier. I learn a lot and I still want to learn more things. I got achievement but I want some more. I was small tiny creature and born from my mother’s womb. Her cares and values are the guidance in my life when I grow up. I am inspired by her attitude, her struggle, and her spirit. My mum is my heroine who never stops praying for me, for my life and for my new family. She is very glad and enthusiastic with my new life phase, starting with my marriage and then my motherhood. Many thing she tells me and I do appreciate it. I am her big big girl now. I always be her little girl, no matter how old I am.

Public Speaking Skill; Why Does Matter for Me???

Watching The King’s Speech makes me thinking how it is really related with everybody’s problem: public speaking. Of course the King George VI had a very serious speech defect but still public speaking frightens everybody.

I have been kinda obsessed to have a very good public speaking skill. Just this afternoon, I read a status of a friend in one of the social network. She wrote: is there any correlation between being nervous with speech of speaking. Hmmm..that question provokes my respond. For me: there is. Either people will talk faster or even slower when they have to speak in front of public. Which one you belong? As for me, I will speak faster with higher pitch:D

Back to my obsession, why I think I should master the public speaking skill? Well in my opinion that of course will help me to deliver speech properly, with good intonation and good body language. Speaking in front of the mass or crowd is not a new thing for me. Since in high school, I took part as committee in almost all school event. I was the vice president in school student organization so I was familiar with the situation. But still those experience haven’t helped me much.

What is the hardest thing when we deliver speech? It’s beating the nervousness. I really remembered the first time I came to toastsmasters meeting. At that time, I was a guest who was invited to give a speech in table topic session. This session was designed to provoke one’s ability to give a speech without preparation. I came to the stage and was given a situation where I had to present in front of the investors about the situation in Canada. Why they should invest their money there. That didn’t run smoothly, I reckon. Okay, I am good in English but I was really nervous at that time. That was my first visit and asked to give a speech of topic that I never heard before.

Joining toastmasters has given me enlightenment about public speaking. The senior members, who have completed level as competent communicator, speak fluently. The way they deliver the speech in front of the public really encourages me to be able to speak like them someday. I have completed my second project. It’s still a long way to go need to complete 10 projects to be qualified as competent communicator. Of course, the title isn’t merely the thing I want to pursue as for me doing the upcoming project will give me chances to practice and practice and at the end my skill will be sharpened.

Tragedy of the Poor

Another tragedy broke out in this country. 15th September 2008, 21 women died while queuing for receiving zakat from the so-called local philanthropist at Pasuruan, East Java.

The amount of money didn’t pay-off the life. Good intention didn’t end at the anticipated result. Despite, it claimed toll whose number wasn’t few.

We’re failed to learn from the past lessons as this is not the first calamity happening due to zakat delivery. While there are reliable zakat institutions, which manage zakat professionally, there are still people who prefer to give zakat directly to the receivers. it’s not wrong, but the problem emerges when they don’t pay attention to the method of delivery.

From the news I read, I know that H.Syukron (the giver) announced about the zakat delivery at the local radio. One doesn’t have to be genius to predict how many people will come for it. Hence, to anticipating the huge number people coming, H.Syukron must have set the method.

To recall, similar tragedy ever happened. But every case ended at nothing, without further investigation by the police. It seems because it’s related with the the divine intention (read: to give zakat), the authority didn’t do anything. Everything is just gone. And last two days, it happened again. My personal opinion says that this time police should investigate the case thoroughly.

30 thousands, for some of us, isn’t worthed to be waited with such effort. However, for the poor, it means a lot. Meaning a lot to have meal for the next days or meaning a lot to buy their children firecrackers.

The poor, is always marginalized, never put with their dignity. As Hidayat Nur Wahid said:

It’s much better if the giver comes and gives the zakat directly to them (the receiver).

Indonesian Song at the Edge?!?!?!

A demand urged by the association of Malaysian music industry employee to restrict the Indonesian songs played in Malaysia radio stations. I read this release at The Jakartapost. Not only do Indonesian migrant workers dominate Malaysia, but also it’s songs. It is said that bulk of Indonesia song is played in radio stations causing Malaysian songs less popular in its own land, hitting the Malaysian music industry.

It’s widely known that Indonesian song are very popular in Malaysia. Therefore, the association requests 90:10 ratio for Malaysian songs.

More than three decades ago, Malaysian who was a newly independent country, imported teachers from Indonesia. Now, its education qualification is better than Indonesia at average. There was an awareness that they needed improvement on human quality and the government was willing to move the political will by importing teacher from Indonesia.

The similar concern appears now in the art field. Realizing they only play a minor role in their own country, the association initiates govt to regulate the songs played by radio station. The ultimate goal is clear, they want to be the number one player in their own music field.

Let’s see if the govt will approve the request. Sometimes, art isn’t merely art. It’s also related with political move:)

Checking the Envelope; What’s your Opinion??!?!?!

To avoid tye possibility of gratification, the Anti Corruption Commission checkec each of submitted envelope in the wedding of the People’s Consultative Speaker, Hidayat Nur Wahid. What a movement!!

As the host, Hidayat was welcomed to the action and maybe he wished it can be a good figure reflecting his support toward the corruption eradication. However, to some people, such action is too much, quoting the statement of the Speaker of Partai Indonesia Sejahtera of North Sumatera. According to him, to give gifts for groom and bride is a vested culture of Indonesian.

Any other opinion? Do u think  it’s too much or not???

Debate over Smoking in Public Sphere

Last night I caught my friend smoking in dining room by surprise. She looked clumsy while apologizing to me for smoking in the dining room.

Some friends in my office are also smokers. Of course, in the office room, employees are not allowed to smoke. But they often do it in the pantry which is definetely a public sphere. Sometimes, I also smell scent left from somebody smoking in the restroom. For latter, our service cleaning officer prepares a airspray to get rid of the odour.

Smoking in the public room is a classic problem. There is still an on-going debate over right or not one smokes in the public sphere. The separation of smoking room from public sphere is still not effective. The regulation issued by DKI Jakarta on smoking prohibition doesn’t effect well. In Sukarno-Hatta, a place providing special room for smokers, often I see visitors show carelessness with smoking in the inappropriate place, to be precise not in the special room.

When I was in college, some friends conducted a survey about the smoking prohibition in campus area. One of the questions was : Do you think it’s appropriate to put the smoking prohibition annoouncement in the ampus area. The majority answer showed that such announcement wasn’t appropriate as it wasn’t democratic. They thought that banning people to smoke was as equal as violating their rights. But how about others’ right to get clean air? Or our right to be healthy if we talk in sense of right and equality?

What do you think? It’s democratic or not?

Everlasting Power

There’s something I want to share with you, about a moral story I found when watching Stardust yesterday.

The movie is about the struggle of a young man, Tristan, to obtain a stardust and bring it in front of Victoria, her lover. He wishes he can find her heart by bringing the stardust, which turns to be a beautiful-spirited woman, Yvaine. Then, in his journey, Tristan finds many obstacles as it turns out that Yvaine is also sought by a witch, called Lamia.

Lamia is looking for the heart of Yvaine, which is believed will give an eternal beauty for her and her other sisters. Then, Tristan forges his task to save Yvaine from the malignant Lamia.

Once Yvaine asks Tristan if he’s tempted. What Yvaine means tempted is if Tristan is also lured to kill her and eat her heart to get the everlasting life.

Then, I remember how a temptation to be everlasting can trigger humankind to do anything to get it. Let’s see the story of dictators we know. Hitler, Idi Amin, Pol Pot, Kim Jong-il and many others who were very dare to do crimes against humanity to be the number one. Only them who could be the one.

Let’s hope we won’t have like one of them.

Perspective; Refresh Our Appreciation of Friends

One day, the father of a very wealthy family took his son on a trip to the country with purpose of showing him how poor people live.

They spent a couple of days and nights on the farm of what would be considered a very poor family.

On their return from their trip, the father asked his son, ‘How was the trip?’

‘It was great, Dad.’

‘Did you see how poor people live?’ the father asked.

‘Oh yeah,’ said the son.

‘So, tell me, what did you learn from the trip?’ asked the father.

The son answered:

‘I saw that we have one dog and they have four.

We have a pool that reaches to the middle of our garden and they have a creek that has no end.

We have lanterns in our garden and they have the stars at night.

Our patio reaches to the front yard and they have the whole horizon.

We have a small piece of land to live on and they have fields that go beyond our sight.

We have servants who serve us, but they serve others.

We buy our food, but they grow theirs.

We have walls around our property to protect us, they have friends to protect them.’

The boy’s father was speechless.

Then his son added, ‘Thanks Dad for showing me how poor we are.’

Isn’t this perspective a wonderful thing? Makes you wonder what would happen if we all give thanks for everything we have, instead of worrying about what we don’t have.

Appreciate every single thing you have, especially your friends!

‘Life is too short and friends are too few.’

Knowledge and Luxury in a piece of Soybean Cake

Lately my favorite fried tempe turns a luxurious food. The side-dish which I usually take with fresh chili nowadays becomes a hot topic in most of news headline. Why? The cause lies at the price of soybean which doubles and tempe, also known as soybean cake, is made of soybean.
It’s very saddening. We know that tahu and tempe can’t be deprived from Indonesian ever-day life. It’s everywhere. Rarely do we know any food vendors don’t offer tempe or tahu for their customers. Tahu and tempe are manifested in many kind of forms. Fried, filled with stuffing, or cooked with other ingredients. In short, tempe and tahu are “ubiquitous” in Indonesia. They go in every layer of Indonesian social class. The tempe and tahu entrepreneurs, mostly of them are small entrepreneurs, face difficulties. The expensive-soybean price has put them in a trouble. They don’t have a choice but increasing the price of tempe and tahu. Nevertheless, the price increment can’t compensate the profit they lose.
Suddenly, this case opens our eyes that soybean isn’t merely about the agriculture commodity that is cultivated, harvested, stored and traded. We know how hard the negotiation on the elite stage to decide if we should import more soybean, from where and how much. We know that our government imposes customs for the imported soybean to protect the uncompetitive local soybean. And now, the customs should be waived temporarily to decrease the imported soybean and the demand can be fulfilled immediately.
Maybe some of us know that Indonesia experienced golden-age of soybean self-sufficiency. It was 1992. The soybean trade was regulated by our government and protected from the liberal world trade system. The local soybean’s price was still promising that our farmers were competing to cultivate it. As result, we could fulfill our own soybean demand. Then when we plunged in to the system of market liberation, the local soybean had to be in line with the world trade system and price. Soybean with the best quality is the most expensive one (soybean from USA in this case), while our local soybean is valued less that those from USA, Brazil and Argentina. That explains why soybean is no longer likely to succeed in the eyes of our farmers. They plant another commodity which promises great gain. Suddenly I wander when we can be in era just like our previous golden age.
Should this problem remains unsolved, I am afraid tempe and tahu will be another luxury for my descendants. I wish this non-cholesterol side-dish still can be affordable for all of Indonesian in many coming years ahead.

Bribery oh Bribery

A release from Transparency International which i read on Tempointeraktif this morning stated that 3 of 10 Indonesia commit bribery related on obtaining service from public institution. That figure is higher than global average number. What a saddening fact.

Together with other countries such as Cameroon, Senegal, Cambodia, Albania, Kosovo, and Macedonia, Indonesia shares position in the stage of the highest bribery case in the world. The bribery case is mostly practiced in institution such as police office, judicial office, and other institutions which are directly connected with permission.

To be honest, I ever involved in bribery when I was pulled over by the police. The bribery itself is the classic problem in developing countries such as Indonesia. The weak and corruptive system like what have been existing in Indonesia for a long time, has caused this problem growing like a mushrooms. Even worse, the appparatus who should eradicate this corruptive actions doesn’t keep a distance from the vicious circle. Thus, the such mentality grow its root even deeper in Indonesia.

I am sure that many times we try to be an idealist who want to follow all procedures. However, it also often happens the system and people in that system don’t allow us to act in line with the rule. Seeing that fact, I imagine when Indonesia can be in the top ten cleanest countries with Japan, South Korea, Austria, France, Iceland, Sweden, Switzerland, and New Zealand and say good bye to the corruptive system.